changin’ PERSPECTIVE …

Was sharing with a dear friend one night a way to change perspective on life. Remember that negative thoughts and words are purely a perception of the person having those negative thoughts and saying those negative words. Change your perspective. Change your life.

So many of us are quick to say that something doesn’t work or it’s wrong or bad. Let’s say you’re outside in the cold with a big ol’ winter coat on and you’re still freezing and you think “this coat isn’t keeping me warm at all.” Really? This big down coat isn’t doing anything? So if you were standing outside in a T-shirt, you’d be just as cold? That’s a ridiculous thought when you put it that way, right? Yet we all have ’em. We’ve trained our brains to think like this. And it makes our lives soooo much less enjoyable. (And I’d bet a million dollars – although betting on this would make no sense, as there is no proof I’ve ever said this – I’ve said this exact thing at least 5 times in my past, because I am NOT a fan of cold weather. Plus, I used to think like this.)

Another example: I am sick and I’m taking my immune-boosting herbs and essential oils, yet I still feel sick. I could look at it as the herbs and oils are not working ORRR, I could look at it as thank goodness I’m taking these herbs and oils, because I feel so much better than if I were taking nothing. Which of these choices sounds more pleasant?

You can think this change in mindset is BS, or you can be like, fuck yeah, this sounds amazing and totally makes sense and I’m going to work on changing my perspective on things that happen in my life so I can be happier and more fulfilled! Again I ask, which of these options sounds better?!?! ;)  Plus, you can totally trust me as I have done the work (over and over and over again) to change my mindset and have seen changes in all aspects of my perception of life events and experiences. So there’s that.

If you’re more positive in general, it will absolutely translate to everything else. How you do one thing is how you do everything. So change your perspective and witness ALL THE AWESOME that comes!

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lines of LOVE …

Today’s creation: heart art (heART, bahaha).  So fun to make and pretty dang cool! Funny that when I was younger, I did NOT like hearts. Heart jewelry – eww. Hearts on stuff – bleh. Heart-shaped anything – ick. Now, I’m spending an hour drawing hearts with the word LOVE in them, and with a freakin’ heart pencil no less. Yeah, times have changed. I have changed. So, if you keep working on loving yourself, don’t be surprised if you start drawing hearts everywhere. All the time. Embrace that open heart, even in those scary vulnerable times (yeah, this is a reminder to myself as well). Love it. Love you. Love all. Love hearts and heart-shaped things ;)

XO <3

are you POSITIVE ?

I was driving home from yoga this morning and I saw this sign in the distance that read “Dance Meditation” and I perked up a bit thinking that sounds interesting. Only the sign didn’t say that at all. I drove a little closer to it and saw that it actually read “Divorce Mediation.” I chuckled at the inconsistency of these 2 very opposing things. And then said to myself, well, shit, I have quite the positive mindset :)

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately – about my positivity, that is. I am in a place now where I can appreciate and accept all that comes into my life as being part of my journey, even and especially the challenges. Now, I admit, I am still human and sometimes I feel like my hormones think for me (ya know what I’m sayin’), so my positive mindset isn’t always in control. For the most part though, it reins and it feels fucking fabulous! This is such an amazing place to be and so different then where I once was.

Test it out … find something positive in a seemingly “negative” situation (I promise you, it’s in there). The key to changing is trusting in everything that comes your way. That it is all meant for you to grow and love and live a fulfilling happy life :)

And I am living and loving proof that it works. XO

 

have you ever tried to CHANGE someone?

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein

We have all wanted someone in our lives to be someone else. To be exactly what we want them to be to better serve ourselves. That sounds lovely … if it were at all possible. No one can change if they aren’t willing to, and even more so, if they have no idea that they need to. Many people are fine in their content robotic lives where things are simple and comfortable and safe (feeling grounded is real, people). I am not one of those people (at least for the most part). Living my life in the opposite manner comes with a lot of challenges and fears and discomfort. And all of that has led to so many adventures and learnings and me starting to truly understand ME. My needs, my desires, my calling, my purpose …

Yet, I still have people in my life that I want to change. Because I think that they should. Because I know that life can be happier and more fulfilling. So, why would you just not do it? I try to help and advise, and help and advise, and help and advise some more and … you get my drift. I feel like I’m making myself insane sometimes. Like banging my head against the wall will gain the exact same results. All I can do is continue to love and nourish ME and shine my light on all those around me. And things will shift. Maybe in others, maybe not. But, shifting will surely happen in me, which will shift all of my relationships in a positive way.

There is a piece of me in every person that I want to change, as we are all reflections of each other. The things that trouble me and challenge me the most in these people are most likely the things in myself I have yet to work on, or that still need a little extra love and attention to finally be free of! Remember this the next time you get angry at or shut down around someone. We are all born as loving little baby humans. Love is our natural instinct. Once we can find that love for ourselves again, it will radiate out all over the world!!!

ox LOVE LOVE LOVE xo

 

as GOOD a place as any …

Just put those anywhere. Oh, here’s some lovely bushes and trees. That’ll be a perfect spot to throw a bunch of broken down crates. This isn’t a typical place for these objects, but if we did everything “typically,” life would be really fucking boring. Plus they add some serious character to those plants!

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” -Dr. Wayne Dyer